Quotes from Nothing you don't already know: Remarkable reminders about meaning, purpose, and self-realization

It takes time, commitment, and continuous effort to keep a fire burning.

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Sometimes the best way to change ourselves is to change our environment.

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Changing is not the problem; letting go of your resistance to change is.

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Happiness is not found at the finish line. There isn’t even a finish line.

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Just let it come when it comes, and let it go when it goes.

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If we are able to let go of everything that we are not, we may eventually realize what we are.

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To realize ourselves, we must first learn to be our own authority. This means we must challenge the ideas that are thrown upon us by our family, culture and society.

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The mind itself is the prison. We can escape by realizing that we are not our thoughts, we are not even the thinker. We are only the witness.

 

 

 This is fucking amazing

 

One of the odder features of relationships is that, in truth, the fear of rejection never ends. It continues, even in quite sane people, on a daily basis, with frequently difficult consequences — chiefly because we refuse to pay it sufficient attention and aren’t trained to spot its counter-intuitive symptoms in others. We haven’t found a winning way to keep admitting just how much reassurance we need.

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Instead of requesting reassurance endearingly and laying out our longing with charm, we have tendencies to mask our needs beneath some tricky behaviors guaranteed to frustrate our ultimate aims.

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We grow into avoidant patterns when, in childhood, attempts at closeness ended in degrees of rejection, humiliation, uncertainty, or shame that we were ill-equipped to deal with. We became, without consciously realizing it, determined that such levels of exposure would never happen again. At an early sign of being disappointed, we therefore now understand the need to close ourselves off from pain. We are too scarred to know how to stay around and mention that we are hurt.

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A central solution to these patterns is to normalize a new and more accurate picture of emotional functioning: to make it clear just how predictable it is to be in need of reassurance, and at the same time, how understandable it is to be reluctant to reveal one’s dependence. We should create room for regular moments, perhaps as often as every few hours, when we can feel unembarrassed and legitimate about asking for confirmation. “I really need you. Do you still want me?” should be the most normal of enquiries.

-Alain de Botton

 When a man is finally boxed and he has no choice, he begins to decorate his box.

-John Steinbeck 

 Such beautiful views on the Waterman Mountain trail last weekend